This ability is a rather joyful thing to possess; handy in most situations that one can think of, and in some that one may not readily perceive.
For instance, I employed the Crocs website to order a pair of red Crocs for Little Guy's birthday, the item at the top of his handwritten wish-list. Being a person of a certain age, my experience with navigating websites is still rudimentary; I still regard the online ordering process as filling out a form to enact an exchange: this is who I am, this is how you can find me to deliver the goods, and here is how I'm paying you to do so, thank you very much, and now I will click the send button. In most instances, this viewpoint has been quite functional.
I began to check both porches of our house when the stated window of delivery arrived. In my previous experiences, the online ordering process has ended at either of these porches, and I didn't wish to Take Any Chances. He is going to be so excited! I think.
LG's birthday came and went. My ritual of the porches continued each day.
About a week and a half ago, I sent an email to Crocs, asking them to please advise me as to the status of the order; usually when I've ordered online in the past, the order confirmation has included tracking information, and I could not find any in the correspondence from them in my inbox. He is going to be so excited! I think.
My porch ritual continued. No delivery; no reply in my inbox.
Friday morning, I attempt to phone the customer service toll-free number listed on the Crocs website. I reach a recorded message that says the system is down, and if I know my party's extension, I may dial it at this time. Thinking I've misdialed, I dial again, and receive the same message, though I'm now listening to it in its entirety. It tells me to dial '0' for assistance, as I hoped it would: and then it continues to ring for the five minutes I remain on the line before hanging up.
Now feeling thwarted, for I had so hoped to speak with A Real Person, I begin to fill out the form provided on the customer service section of the website; the form is given as an alternative to phoning and speaking to a customer service representative: yet, I feel strangely irritated by the form. The form was my last option, and I feel as if I've been forced to use it.
Pull over, FedEx truck, and give me my Crocs, LG jokes, everytime we pass a FedEx truck.
So, from my limited experience with How Things Work When You Order From Crocs Online, I wrote my inquiry into this form, and I am sad to say, I was somewhat more terse than in my first written and unrequited inquiry: being in a job where I don't sit down all day, I felt that I could be a lifetime customer, but I would go elsewhere if I did not receive satisfaction, the choice was theirs---more or less.
Pull over, FedEx truck, and give me my Crocs, LG jokes, everytime we pass a FedEx truck.
A few hours later, I receive a short reply from a polite representative. The order was shipped and delivered, and indeed, arrived on July 13 (note, dear reader, 3 full days before the birthday); but if I indeed had not received the shipment, she would arrange to have a replacement delivered. I should, she notes, have been able to find this information on my account page on the Crocs website.
Oh. So that's how they do things, I think, glad to add some new knowledge to my previous experience.
I share with Snowy, LG, and Big Guy what the representative has told me.
Intuitively, like the most quiet flash, LG, BG, and I go to the front porch, the porch whose door we never, ever use. We open the screen door; inside the screen door, outside the front door, in that little space between, sits the box: snug, waiting.
LG and BG tear it open, laughing.
LG puts on the red Crocs and jumps up and down. He's beaming.
So am I.
Dear reader, I think so much about learning, and about experience. I'm glad to have this experience, as mortified as I felt, for many reasons.
I love to learn new things; so I'm glad to have my experience and knowledge about online ordering become more nuanced.
I'm glad to also have the lesson reinforced to me about assumptions: we assume so much knowledge as a given. I assumed that the FedEx driver would place the box openly on either porch, as the mailman and countless UPS drivers have done in the past. To the Crocs representative, so facile in the Crocs system, it was incredibly apparent how to navigate that system to find the particular knowing I wanted. To me, my experience of How Things Have Been didn't match with How Things Are For Crocs: and as a result, I felt frustrated, powerless. It caused me to feel anxious because I was trying to use what I knew had worked before (emails, tracking links, and telephone inquiries) to get me what I wanted (LG's happiness: beaming and leaping in bright red shoes).
We are told in our classroom management classes that students want most to feel as if they can affect others in a positive way (LG's happy leaping) as well as to feel that they have a sense of power and control over the environment (thus the desire to speak to a real person to reason out the situation as opposed to filling out a form and waiting) and to belong (I've been able to navigate the environment successfully, and make a positive outcome, so therefore, I'm in my element here---I belong).
In my Birthday Crocs lesson, I didn't feel power, belonging, or able to affect something positive, until I was able to have my experience more nuanced. Someone had to Spell It Out (delivered on the 13th, see it on your account page), and I had to be able to be Sufficiently Motivated ( Pull over, FedEx truck, and give me my Crocs, LG jokes, everytime we pass a FedEx truck) to step a little outside of my experience (box in plain sight on the porch), to Meet It Halfway (halfway between inside and outside, to be exact!).
How much do we assume as a given for our students with autism? For our students in any classroom? Or as a given for anyone that we meet?
My experience is too much, too often.
What a wonderful gift, this lesson: I'm much better equipped to Meet Halfway---and then the real good stuff of the trip, that part where we all learn good, new stuff together---in fact, because we are together---can begin.
I'll finish posting with a poem by the new United States Poet Laureate, Charles Simic: in honor of different ways of perception; in honor of a belated bit of LG's birthday celebration.
As I have another post to make up for my weekend silence, more about poetry later today, hopefully, dear reader, wherein I will again confess to how much I don't know, and why I revel in my foolishness.
Watermelons
Green Buddhas
On the fruit stand.
We eat the smile
And spit out the teeth.
http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/watermelons/
![](https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgmEmPaxDwto-5F-bvjk4QBgfmna7mlGV3aAbWOhaEp326DiDBlqYgUZKqbAzm8CvcTgs9UrF5qB9p1_mHD_0NnpxdCoDg9oPi09bDNojbrUenyAfOyHQhvtP4JTWa3Doy00RGNMFGOnmc/s400/formerLocationGreenBuddha.jpg)
Former location of the "Green Buddha," in Wat Phrakaco, Laos
http://galen-frysinger.com/viet_nam/laos16.jpg
126 comments:
Neroli,
There is so much to respond to here (as always) - your humility and kindness in taking this as a learning exerience rather than just being angry at the delivery person first of all! I thought I hadn't gotten a package that was left for me in a shed across from my house. How was I to know?! A note would have been nice! Like you I have often find packages between the screen and the door of an unused door, or to the side in front of it where they can not be seen (hidden from all those people who never come down our country washboard roads and up our secluded rutted drive.) I will try to learn from your patience.
The image of Laos is lovely - a true peaceful moment in my day and your poem is just wonderful. I have been on a rampage to find seeded watermelons of late and at odds with my grocer who keeps sending me to the seedeless variety as if this were a watermelon!
Your poem reminds me of an anecdote form my mother about how when they were children they would eat watermelon and then put the seeds on their toenails for the chickens to peck off. She said it was scary, but fun and nobody lost a toe. Teeth desired by chickens. smle! Thank you for a warm beginning to my day!
Artist, thank you!
The story of your mother as a girl, the toes, seeds, and chickens is so wonderful---how can one not smile?
With such memories and thoughts, smiles are anything but scarce as hens' teeth!
Just when my day was starting to unravel, my cold tightening in my chest, and my hair cut that was too short to begin seems to be getting shorter...I come to visit you. Your words are so soothing and funny in the same sentence. They also create pictures in my mind. **looking on the porches for the package**
Then I come across that beautiful photo which has such a calming effect and then, eating the watermelon smile and spitting out our teeth finished me off. Thank You. I should have come to visit sooner.
Glad the little red crocs arrived and caused such joy in the heart of a little one.
Dear Swamp Witch, you are Most Welcome!
I'm so glad to be at the right place at the right time for your visit.
It's good to know that there are pictures coming with the words---that's the transmission I receive, so to speak, that I challenge myself to put into verbage.
(But I've always liked your play with words and images also!)
And the Crocs?
LG wears them from the time he wakes to the time he parks them by his bed before tucking in for the night :-)
Life is good, isn't it?
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